Stability comes from inside.

Part of growing up is facing the hard fact:

Some people end up living out fairy tales…while the rest of us do not. 

All our young lives we search for someone to love,someone who makes us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope all the while wondering if somewhere and somehow there is someone searching for us. — The Wonder Years

Part of growing up is giving away your best friends to others and, in turn, finding new ones yourself. 

I am still reading about Medea and the quest for the Golden Fleece. Here is someone that I recognize. When Medea falls in love with Jason, it grabs me by my throat. I can see her. Medea sneaks Jason things to help him: ointments to make him invincible, secrets in rocks. She has magic, could bend the natural to the unnatural. But even with all her power, Jason bends her like a young pine in a hard wind; he makes her double in two. I know her.

- Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward

I am giving up

On making passes

I am giving up

On half-empty glasses

I am giving up 

On greener grasses

I am giving up

- Ingrid Michaelson

30 Other Things Every Woman Should Know

1. Always ask for more money at your job, even if you don’t think you deserve it.
2. Try to be kind to the people who are rude to you. It’s not personal, they’re just having a really bad day/month/life.
3. Don’t go to doctors that advertise. Ask a friend for a recommendation.
4. If you are hungover, drink water, eat a banana and try to sleep it off.
5. If you believe in opportunity, opportunity will present itself.
6. Sometimes when things are really bad, you just have to go through the motions of your life until they get better.
7. Surround yourself by only the books, images, music and people that make you happy.
8. Your ability to speak honestly about your weaknesses, failures and disappointments is your greatest strength.
9. Nothing is more fulfilling than helping other people.
10. There really are plenty of fish in the sea.
11. Wear sunscreen or a hat when you’re in strong sunlight.
12. You need to take the big risk, even if it scares the living crap out of you.
13. Sometimes water is thicker than blood.
14. Shoes that are too tight can be stretched by a shoemaker.
15. Don’t worry about living a life that looks good on paper.
16. Go to the gynecologist every year, even if you hate it.
17. Be careful about confiding personal information. Relationships change.
18. Go to events and parties and lectures you have no interest in going to.
19. Ask yourself what you want. Then take the necessary steps to get it.
20. Don’t stay in a bad relationship because of the anticipated misery of a breakup.
21. When you have a headache, drink a glass of water before you do anything else. It might just be dehydration.
22. Anyone worth having sex with should think that you’re gorgeous the way you are.
23. When people are speaking gibberish English with a bunch of unrelated words strung together they’re usually talking about a band.
24. Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you’re with the right person.
25. You can have a fulfilling life without ever having kids.
26. Do what comes naturally to you, it’s what you’ll have the most success at.
27. Be thankful that things you wished for didn’t come true. Know that this will happen again.
28. Let yourself be happy when you’re happy.
29. Force yourself to overcome your fears.
30. Remember that no one else has it figured out either. 

Lonely nights are significantly harder than lonely days…

This summer must include…

- The beach

- Travel of some sort

- Trying new recipes

- Maintaining fitness

- Organization

- The pool

- Bike rides

- Basking in heat

- New memories with old friends

- New memories with new friends

- Baseball

- Fresh fruit 

- Family

- Literature

- Preparation for the year ahead

- Happiness

- Laughter

- Sunshine